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Read Daddy Freeze thoughts on Pastor Adeboye’s advice on Marriage

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The controvercial OAP has given his opinion on pastor Adeboye’s advice on marriage .While he supported the fact a spouse should be able to pray for one hour,he disagreed with cooking as a criteria for marrying a woman…He wrote

This week, I got so many emails and DMs asking for my opinion on Pastor Adeoye’s message about marrying a woman who cant cook etc. This, being a spiritual issue cannot be tackled with my usual ‘fayose’ approach, as I needed to hear from God first.
There were four main issues raised and I will try my best to address all. I wasn’t in the service and I am relying on the emails and DMs as a point of reference.

The only part of the message I agree 100% with, is that no one should marry a man or woman who can’t pray for 1 hour straight.

The bible instructs us in the book of 1st Thessalonians chapter 5 verse 17 to “pray without ceasing”. In as much as we like to operate under the assumption that we control our own lives, in my opinion, the greatest part of our lives is controlled by external forces. Let’s take the instance of former president Olusegun Obasanjo who was a free man in 1996, by 1997 he was imprisoned for treason, by 1998 he was released from prison after the sudden death of Abacha and by 1999 he was president of the federal Republic of Nigeria. If in 1996, Obasanjo had known he was going to be in prison the following year, he probably would have gone to sew prison uniform, awaiting his conviction. Also if in 1997, with a life sentence hanging around his neck, he had known that in a little over a year he would become president, he would have made adequate preparations, but guess what? Life happens. I remember having a chat over drinks with my boss Mr Moussalli, who told me that he used to stay in Nice, when Lebanon was being bombed because it was safe and calm. Who would ever have guessed that Nice itself was going to be be the scene of a gruesome terrorist attack about a month ago? So wisdom doesn’t guarantee safety and strength doesn’t guarantee bread. (Ecclesiastes 9:11) Even the strongest man and the richest man in the world put together cannot control a hurricane.

“When life happens during your race, you will need a sufficient amount of grace!”~FRZ
This Grace can only be received through ceaseless prayer!

Talking about marrying a woman that cannot cook is another kettle of fish entirely, as I do not see why this is a criteria for marriage in 2016. If your woman can’t cook you have many options which include teaching her, hiring a cook, cooking your own meals or eating out and each has its own distinct and enjoyable flavour. Imagine serving your woman a meal in bed on a Saturday morning, she would gladly retaliate with a favor ‘wink’.

About marrying a man that has a job I can’t disagree more, especially coming from a man of God who is supposed to preach faith and grace as against logic. With the present state of the Nigerian economy, in my own opinion, at least 10% percent of couples will experience job losses within one week of marriage, considering the way companies are laying off staff.

A friend of mine lost his job the 3rd day after his wedding, and another friend lost his job 2 days before his first son was born. So why place so much emphasis on having a job, when there is hardly any job security in Nigeria, and you could lose that job in a heartbeat! So the wife of my friend who lost his job 3 days after their wedding should file for a divorce?

Another thing I heard that Daddy allegedly said was that anyone who wanted sex everyday should come for deliverance. It’s much easier for a man in his 70s to preach this, and as I turned 40 this year it’s a bit easier for me to understand. However I would have walked out on anyone trying to preach this to me at 31 as it meant setting myself up for fornication since my woman would probably say “Daddy said it’s not food so its not everyday”
The bible is very clear on this, as it states in the book of 1st Corinthians chapter 7 verse 4, that “The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband doesn’t have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife”

Therefore, refusing your spouse sex is dangerous and is not supported by God, as it can lead to adultery which has more serious consequences than daily sex. I hear that there are some tribes in Nigeria that if you marry from, and cannot satisfy daily, you dig the grave of that union with your own hands.

Everyone is physically different, therefore our needs for sex differ.
In my humble opinion, sexual compatibility is of a far greater relevance to a successful marriage than sexual frequency.

 Therefore, my advice is; choose your spouse wisely, while in constant prayer, as being single is miles better than being in a bad marriage! ~FRZ
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You Cannot Benefit From Country You Curse – Shettima Warns Nigerians

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Kashim Shettima has warned Nigerians against hauling curses on the country as a result of the hardship, stating that it would be impossible for abusers to benefit from a system they have abused.

He stated that there are a lot of opportunities in Nigeria and therefore urged Nigerians to count their blessings instead of putting the country down through words.

In his words, “Let us count our blessings. Let us not put our country down.

He emphasized that, “It cannot be tales of woes all the time. As bad as things are today and with all the inflation, there are sectors that are doing incredibly well. The health sector is doing very well.

The petroleum sector is doing well. The Agric sector is doing well, for those who are planting cassava.

“People buy it there on the farm. I am not saying that things are easy. The government has come with very tough reforms.

“However, you have to position yourself in the reform. If you go out and say Nigeria is a shitty country, forgive my French, you are going to get shitty results.

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President Bola Tinubu steps aside as ECOWAS Chairman as his tenure comes to an end today (Sunday).

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The 65th Ordinary Session of the Authority is holding at the Presidential Villa in Abuja where he is expected to pass on the torch to another leader.

The Military leaders of Niger, Mali, and Burkina Faso rule out returning to ECOWAS even as President Bola Tinubu leads Heads of State of the 15-member bloc in a Summit in Abuja to persuade them to return.

“Westerners consider that we belong to them and our wealth also belongs to them. They think that they are the ones who must continue to tell us what is good for our states. This era is gone forever; our resources will remain for us and our populations,”
says Burkina Faso’s leader, Capt. Ibrahim Traoré.

“”Our people have irrevocably turned their back on ECOWAS,” Niger’s General Abdourahamane Tiani says.

“The attack on one of us will be an attack on all the other members,” insists Mali’s leader, Col. Assimi Goïta.

The trio signed a confederation treaty on Saturday, underscoring their determination to chart a joint course and exit the bloc which is urging them to return to democratic rule.

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Every girl needs you in their life” – Sharon Ooja pens touching note to Bisola Aiyeola for redefining friendship

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Nollywood actress and newly married Sharon Ooja has penned a touching note to her bestfriend and colleague, Bisola Aiyeola

In a lengthy post on her Instagram page, she stated that every lady needs a friend like Bisola in their life as she described her as a friend after her own heart.

Affirming her love for her, she appreciated Bisola for all she did for her during her wedding and for sticking close to her. Calling her a sister and best friend, she stated that she is strong because of her

She noted how Bisola always knew where her head was without asking her and appreciated her for helping her redefine friendship.

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