If you are above 40yrs old, then you
have every business reading this. If not
however, you still need to go ahead and
read because your own time dey come.
I mostly talk about the experiences I
have been through, to talk to me and
some times to heal me or some of the
people I counsel. I share things I have
learnt, so others can pick any positives
that may help them in their journey
through life.
Na so.
The stage I am at now and what am
going through, is what I have discussed
with so many men including my father-
in-law in the past 30yrs. I never
thought or even imagined I would one
day be wearing the same shoes myself.
Some men right now are experiencing
symptoms that include fatigue, serious
mood swings, depression and wait for
it….sexual problems; like not being as
desirous of your spouse sexually as you
have been in the past. Like noticing
things you didn’t use to notice in the
past in your house hold. Like being
irritable and short fused or the feeling
of being alone even when you’re
surrounded by family.
Oyinbo people get name for am, dem
dey call am Men-O-Pause.
When a woman is moody, it’s
hormones. When a man is moody, it’s
work related stress, money problems, or
just one of those days, right?
Maybe not!
An increasing amount of evidence
points to an aging-related hormonal
change in men that corresponds to the
hormonal change in women known as
menopause. Some call it “male
menopause” which some believe is not
entirely accurate but still gets the point
across.
Much the same way women’s estrogen
levels drop after a certain age, men’s
testosterone levels decrease with age.
Testosterone is also known as androgen,
and many doctors prefer the term
“andropause” for this male condition or
mid-life crisis, but all na the same
pausing.
Anything wey pause, dey on hold.
So for many husbands, their sex life
with their spouse is on hold. For some,
this has been on hold for weeks, months
and even years. Wahala dey o.
According to my research, testosterone
decreases very gradually, in the area of
1 percent per year starting around age
35, don’t take my word for it, go ask
your doctor or go read it up. So Na him
be say my own don decrease by 30%?
Kai!!!! See life.
Some of the symptoms are remarkably
similar to those experienced by women
in menopause, including moodiness,
fatigue, thinking too much, depression,
decreased sex drive. Hummm, my
brothers, old age no fit hide sha, no
matter the charlyboy in us.
So how do you know if your symptoms
are related to Mid-life crisis/Menopause
or to some other condition?
All I can tell you is to take a trip to the
doctor.
My guy, this life funny o. See me, see
menopause. Tufiakwa. I reject it in
Jesus Name!
Now if you are the wife, there are a few
things you can do to try and help get
your husband back to the way he used
to be before this sudden turn of events.
First, understand what you’re dealing
with, both of you should see a doctor
together.
It is not always correct for wives to
allege that their husbands are not
getting their sex games on due to
escapades with a mistress. For some
wives, they say fuck it, and find
themselves a handy man.
Meanwhile, this is one of those times in
a man’s life when his wife “should be”
very sensitive and go further to
research on the topic especially in these
days of Internet.
Wives must help out by making extra
effort not only to be sexy but to be the
gentle aggressor in this time of need.
There are treatments for these
conditions so partners must be open to
talk about it.
Wives, what you never want to do is sit
there and do nothing cause that will
surely become the death of sex in your
relationship.
But if you’re already getting your
groove on somewhere else, never mind.
Most men may have problem with going
to see a doctor and actually dealing
with their problems, so the wife may
have to find a way around that but, rest
assured that seeking help will be more
than worth it in order that both of you
begin to feel jiggy again and better
controlling the mood swings and other
symptoms.
Na so I know reach o,
Men…Ohhhh…Pause!!!