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Men-O-Pause By Charly Boyyl



If you are above 40yrs old, then you
have every business reading this. If not
however, you still need to go ahead and
read because your own time dey come.
I mostly talk about the experiences I
have been through, to talk to me and
some times to heal me or some of the
people I counsel. I share things I have
learnt, so others can pick any positives
that may help them in their journey
through life.
Na so.
The stage I am at now and what am
going through, is what I have discussed
with so many men including my father-
in-law in the past 30yrs. I never
thought or even imagined I would one
day be wearing the same shoes myself.
Some men right now are experiencing
symptoms that include fatigue, serious
mood swings, depression and wait for
it….sexual problems; like not being as
desirous of your spouse sexually as you
have been in the past. Like noticing
things you didn’t use to notice in the
past in your house hold. Like being
irritable and short fused or the feeling
of being alone even when you’re
surrounded by family.
Oyinbo people get name for am, dem
dey call am Men-O-Pause.
When a woman is moody, it’s
hormones. When a man is moody, it’s
work related stress, money problems, or
just one of those days, right?
Maybe not!
An increasing amount of evidence
points to an aging-related hormonal
change in men that corresponds to the
hormonal change in women known as
menopause. Some call it “male
menopause” which some believe is not
entirely accurate but still gets the point
Much the same way women’s estrogen
levels drop after a certain age, men’s
testosterone levels decrease with age.
Testosterone is also known as androgen,
and many doctors prefer the term
“andropause” for this male condition or
mid-life crisis, but all na the same
Anything wey pause, dey on hold.
So for many husbands, their sex life
with their spouse is on hold. For some,
this has been on hold for weeks, months
and even years. Wahala dey o.
According to my research, testosterone
decreases very gradually, in the area of
1 percent per year starting around age
35, don’t take my word for it, go ask
your doctor or go read it up. So Na him
be say my own don decrease by 30%?
Kai!!!! See life.
Some of the symptoms are remarkably
similar to those experienced by women
in menopause, including moodiness,
fatigue, thinking too much, depression,
decreased sex drive. Hummm, my
brothers, old age no fit hide sha, no
matter the charlyboy in us.
So how do you know if your symptoms
are related to Mid-life crisis/Menopause
or to some other condition?
All I can tell you is to take a trip to the
My guy, this life funny o. See me, see
menopause. Tufiakwa. I reject it in
Jesus Name!
Now if you are the wife, there are a few
things you can do to try and help get
your husband back to the way he used
to be before this sudden turn of events.
First, understand what you’re dealing
with, both of you should see a doctor
It is not always correct for wives to
allege that their husbands are not
getting their sex games on due to
escapades with a mistress. For some
wives, they say fuck it, and find
themselves a handy man.
Meanwhile, this is one of those times in
a man’s life when his wife “should be”
very sensitive and go further to
research on the topic especially in these
days of Internet.
Wives must help out by making extra
effort not only to be sexy but to be the
gentle aggressor in this time of need.
There are treatments for these
conditions so partners must be open to
talk about it.
Wives, what you never want to do is sit
there and do nothing cause that will
surely become the death of sex in your
But if you’re already getting your
groove on somewhere else, never mind.
Most men may have problem with going
to see a doctor and actually dealing
with their problems, so the wife may
have to find a way around that but, rest
assured that seeking help will be more
than worth it in order that both of you
begin to feel jiggy again and better
controlling the mood swings and other
Na so I know reach o,


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“Absolutely Clueless And Easily The Worst Manager I Played Under” — Mikel Obi Blasts Sunday Oliseh; Blames Him For Vincent Enyeama’s Early Retirement



He said’ “I remember the first day he came into the camp. Then we reported to the camp for International duties, then he came straight at me and Vincent Enyeama, the goalkeeper, who also was very powerful back then.”

“He came straight at us and Elderson Echiejile, and he said a few things. He said he heard there was a lot of player power with us.

“Then Enyeama was like, ‘What’s wrong with you? Where are you getting all of these from? We are a nice group, and you just come in, and the first thing is to attack us?

“He was like ‘I heard about you guys.’ And then Enyeama stood up and told him he couldn’t say that because we had been here for so many years. They started arguing, and literally, they were going to have a fight.

“He took Enyeama out of the team, and he came at us saying he was going to take us out of the team. He said he was going to take us out of the team; he said he was going to make sure we didn’t play anymore.”

“Enyeama could not take it, and despite my pleas, he left the camp angrily and never came back.”

“He (Oliseh) had absolutely no clue of how a manager is. He was a fantastic guy in his playing days, but as a coach, he was very terrible. He had no clue what he was doing.

“The players never understood anything he was doing, and he did not know what he was doing. He was just confused because he just came in and destroyed the team’s togetherness.

“His excuse when he got fired was that the people and FA did voodoo on him not to succeed. He was easily the worst manager I played under.

“He was so bitter with everybody, jealous with everybody, and had no respect for speaking to anybody, whether the physio or anybody,” he added.

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“She Took Care Of My Son When I Left To UK To Give Birth To My Twins” — Kindhearted Nigerian Woman Rewards Her Housemaid With Canada Sponsorship



A Nigerian lady identified as Lioness Eze wrote: “Miracle is her name

She was a maid to me.
She’s here in Canada to do her first degree in IT innovation ( I’m her full sponsor). She’s 20

She took care of my son when I left to UK to put to bed to my twins. My son never for one day felt I wasn’t around him.

Each time my son asks of where the dad is, she’s always there for him to make sure no vacuum at all

When we relocated to Canada, I started pursuing her greener pastures.

I applied for her degree program into same university as mine in Ontario. She got the admission, I started applying for her visa, she was denied first time. But she was granted visa the second time and was given 3 years visa to study in Canada.

She has arrived😁😁 pictures bellow

She even traveled with us to UK for summer 😁

Isn’t her name speaking for her?(Miracle)

NB : she calls me mommy, ( her biological mother is late) she’s my older daughter now, anywhere U see her, tap her back and tell her she’s really a miracle to her generation

GRACE GOD has given me which is unique from others is, you can’t be around me and remain same. If you are around me and your life never changes, it means you need to change ur attitude.”

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I’m still single and searching – 70-year-old virgin Cries



An elderly woman has lamented being single and still searching because she rejected many men in the name of sacrificing her life to give her siblings a good education before getting married.

“The reason I am still single is that I haven’t found the right man for me. But when I was still a young girl, several men were chasing after me. I dated several, but I refused to get married before my siblings graduated because I was the one who was taking care of them. Men would approach me for marriage and I would tell them no because I wanted to educate my siblings first, then marry later,” she said.

“If I get a husband, I would get married. I’m ready to be a wife and move in together with my husband,” Alphonsine said.

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